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You Don’t Have to Miss It
Parenting without FOMO
Mom’s are familiar with the reminder that “you’ll miss it when it’s gone” and “the days are long but the years are short.” But what if you won’t miss it?
During a playdate with another mom, I explained to her how much I struggle with infants. I have an almost 3-year-old and a 4-week-old and I don’t miss this infant stage. Having a new little one at home has only reminded me how much I disliked it the first time.
My friend interrupted me and said, “It’s ok not to miss or enjoy this stage.”
It’s OK not to miss it.
What sweet, sweet relief. I don’t have to enjoy this newborn stage or miss it when it’s gone. I’m never going to reminisce about this stage in my children’s lives, nor do I need to feel guilty about it. I don’t thrive in the newborn stage.
It’s taken time and some confidence to tell others that while I love my baby, I don’t enjoy this phase. There are phases in our life that we don’t have to miss when they come to an end.
My husband is really enjoying our oldest being a busy, engaged toddler. I really enjoyed the time from when my son…
